I’m going to do a book review on my other blog, but I wanted to talk about a question that I got from one of the stories in a collection of short stories titled Beyond The Pale, edited by Henry Herz. The question is: Is it a gift to be able to forget? The author of the story believes so. I, on the other hand, think not so much.
We are born forgetting. We are a species that has forgotten. Our whole makeup is to forget unless we put in the effort to do otherwise. This forgetting has been the cause of so many problems, such as forgetting the harm that someone has inflicted thereby (un)intentionally enabling them to repeat the offense. It makes it easier for us to make the same mistake without feeling like a silly-willy dum-dum that doesn’t learn. But most of all forgetting can hamper our progress of being self-made (this includes the aid of community and Spirit.)
With this small list of reasoning against forgetting, the author of this story believes even still, to forget is a blessing- it’s a small part of the story but as a writer, I hooked on to it. We don’t want to remember the painful memories. We can let past lovers be those past lovers. That’s it. Those are the writer’s two reasoning for being in favor of forgetting.
Now, I’ve made my share of mistakes but if I could I would keep all the memories. I believe that when we know better we do better; most us anyway. I also champion the idea that if we were able to remember why we’re here, where we came from, when did we arrive, and how are we to live, then life would be a lot easier. I don’t agree that we need negative reinforcement to grow. Forgetting enforces such method of encouragement.
As far as the people of my past go; there are people in my past who I still remember, and their presence is just a strong as people who I’ve forgotten. This argument is not valid, and I beg to differ with the writer, Peter S. Beagle. We need our memories. We need not forget. Again, forgetting has caused enough problems. I for one think that it’s time we start remembering and taking actions based on what we hold deeply due to cumulative experiences. It can only make our individual and collective consciousness elevate to the rafters.
I don’t know. What do you think? Forget or not to forget?
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Thanks for Listening!
Sabrina Louise Andielle